The more I ponder this thought, the more I realize we are all heads of our own sport organizations. We participate in prospect scouting, contract negotiations, and all that other stuff. Each team has its on identity. As men and women, we all have our own criteria. Its moreso a checklist to go by when looking for someone. Not everyone is a good fit for your team. So there is a period of research that takes place. Just like teams go to combines or go over film. We go to bars, clubs, parties, etc... We look for people and if we see something that garners attention we let it be known that we have interest. Once that is out the way we begin the meticulous process of elimination, because like any sport you can only have so many players on your roster. The way we eliminate people is very superficial and shallow. We may go out on a date or something and you realize, well this person isn't as wealthy as I thought they were or this person is not as cute as they were in the club...etc etc. Once we have found that person or people we are interested in its on to the next step.
Okay so after you have figured who you have interest in its time you lure them to your organization. In sports this is where the agent comes in. The agent wants to make the deal as one-sided as possible because they are representing their client and have their client's best interest at heart. But, who represents the two parties in this situation? The answer: No one. We are not represented by anyone. We let the dates speak for themselves, the text messages, and the phone calls as well. If that isn't enough we tend to make things seem a bit more appealing than they naturally are to get that person on your team. In basketball, this is done as well. To get a person to join your team you have to show that your organization has the ability to win. That's when teams who are lacking, dip into the dreadful free agency to pick up some washed up player. To show the prospective player that "Hey we have this now all we need is you".
Now that negotiations are done and you have the person on your team what do we do next? We bring out all the bells and whistles for them. We take them out on dates to the most magnificent of places. We spend all our time with this other person to make them feel as though they are the most important person in the world. Then when all of that leads to less the mediocre results, the "realness" comes out. In sports, thats when the interviews stop being so friendly. When your team mates start blaming you for things. When the abilities you have come into question. For dating this could mean a number of things. You could have not put out (Ladies) or you could not have satisfied the woman (Men). It could be a plethora of things. Regardless of the nature of the issue. The fact remains that the aura that was once around a person is gone. Or the buzz around a high draft pick is fading. Once that happens then you become open for business again. Sports organizations call that "exploring other options". What happens next happens to everyone who dates at some point in time.
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